However, letting go of those expectations allows us to stop acting within sex and just explore our physical bodies. I think a lot of women have to walk through this “letting go” before they can experience a true physical orgasm – and it’s helpful if men are understanding and patient.

http://journeyoflifekatie.blogspot.com/2012/04/day-5-fear-of-female-orgasm.html

In my brief lifetime on this earth, roughly 55 years, I’ve had many opportunities to study how men respond to women. I’ve come to one very simple conclusion:

Men, by nature are very egocentric and have a tendency to think that what “they” experience, must also be the experience of the rest of humanity.

So, as they try to filter the female experience through their own experience and life parameters, they continue to come up short, befuddled, and confused.

Hardly does it ever occur to them that a bird is not a cat, a cat is not a dog and a woman is not just a scaled down version of themselves.

Get outside of your heads (both large and small, gentlemen) and you will find that the female orgasm is not so mysterious at all.

Just different.

Monique

I would assert that females of the human persuasion are capable of orgasm through stimulation of at least five distinct erogenous zones; that, though the underlying mechanism may be similar or even involve peripheral or distal stimulation of the same tissues, the presence of intervening distinct neural pathways colors the character of these distinct flavors of orgasm to the point they are readily discernible from one another. Couple this multitudinous approach vector with the narrow refractory nature of female orgasm (relative, especially, to male human orgasm), and the waters are muddied considerably. Human females are capable (generally speaking) of obtaining orgasm via multiple sites of stimulation, and multiply serially as well.

Now, to be sure, and owing to the vagaries of individual physiology, to say nothing of the social inhibitions implanted during childhood on up through early adolescence, not all women may be capable of allowing themselves to experience the multifarious nature of their sexuality. But, with a few glasses of good wine and a patient, comprehensive back rub and/or foot rub recently disposed of, more women are capable of such heights of ecstasy than many would, themselves, deem possible or even advisable. I mean, imagine if men were capable of not only multiple orgasm (generally speaking, again), but multiple varieties, as well! Nothing, ever, would get done!

I will dispense with the presumption of listing the varieties of female orgasm in bulletted format. Suffice to say, vaginal orgasm is, indeed, readily attainable following insertion of foreign body into said orifice.

http://orgasmgirl.blogspot.com/2011/10/crossing-over-partial-occurrence.html

Your idea that ancient relics like yourself can actually attract women with your shiny new Prius’s(the liberal Hummer) and doing yoga (see above where you are bending over and blowing smoke up your own ass)is what woman want, as opposed to shiny new boy toys is flawed.

Fitness only means ‘whatever dumbass can get it up and dump a load in a singlemom’ anyways.

Then: “My own opinion is that orgasm reinforces the desire for bonding, in both men and women.”

Again–what would you know about that anyways? The only bond in your life is your hand, super-glued to your own member, and your other hand on the keyboard, furiously trolling internet chat sites for the word ‘orgasm’.

How does one contradict or disprove the other? Both the bonding and the preference for variety are beneficial to the species, in different ways and at different stages of the reproductive cycle.

(Also, I suspect that “the human male’s preference for variety” is a bit overrated (and the human female’s preference for variety is underrated). Yes, men like lots of partners (or at least the idea thereof), but we also like the idea of a steady partner who stays with us.)

My own opinion is that orgasm reinforces the desire for bonding, in both men and women. It also encourages both sexes to seek — and stick with, and have lots of sex with — the most physically fit partners, since in general, the fittest partners give us both the best orgasms and the fittest offspring.

I think you meant to address Radical Feminist bonobos? http://pornalysis.wordpress.com/2011/07/06/hot-sweaty-monkey-butt-sex/